Bold Whisper Blog


Do You Hear That?


THE BOLD (Missing What We’re Missing):

You don’t know what you’re missing.  That’s because you are missing it.  It isn’t until you build your capacity, heal your wounds, develop a new skill or shift your perspective that the missing things are found.  What aren’t you hearing right now?  I don’t know and neither do you.  But if we do the work and permit the change, we can discover the missing things.

The Whisper (A Treatise on Spring Peepers):

In 2007, I developed an alarming symptom.  Read More


You Haven’t Earned Your Limits Yet


THE BOLD  (an End to Limited Limitation):

Until you bump into the wall, you don’t have a wall.  Until you push yourself past what is possible, you haven’t earned your limits.

The Whisper (an Experience of the Infinite Finite)

Recently, I participated in a group meditation.  The facilitator drew us along a path to encounter a book, empty and waiting, in which we could scribe our deepest yearnings.  From there we journeyed out into the cosmos and encountered our limitless self.  Right there, I crashed back in on myself.  Read More


How Bright Shines the Light


THE BOLD (on Light Signatures):

“Who am I to make such a difference?” you ask.  “How are my meager resources going to impact the world?”  A trip to a lighthouse reminded me that we don’t have to rely solely on the strength of our pilot light.  There are resources to clarify, amplify and focus our personal reserves in order to extend our reach and brighten our contribution.

The Whisper (an Illumination):

This is the Cape Henry Lighthouse of 1881.  It stands at a bend in the coastline along the oceanfront in Virginia Beach, Virginia.  We visited this beautiful sentinel and it’s even older sibling, the 1792 Cape Henry Lighthouse, on our vacation this Summer.  We piled out of the car on a clear, sunny afternoon, paid our admission and climbed the 191 steps to the top of the older structure. Read More


Oasis–What I learned on the Road from Here to There


THE BOLD (Whence Cometh My Strength):

Sometimes, a little patch of the familiar–like an 8 foot square of east coast grass plunked into a western landscape–can provide welcome relief.  Enjoy the familiar without letting it derail your progress toward your desired future.  Let the green, green grass of home strengthen your resolve and sooth your heart, but don’t take your eyes of the promise of the mountains to come.

The Whisper (Traveling Mercies):

Once upon a time, I moved from the East Coast to the West Coast.  I moved back again, but that is a story for another time.  On the long and increasingly dry road through the American west, I watched the landscape change.  In Virginia, where we started, there were the trees and grass and other plants which were so familiar as to be invisible.  It is green in Virginia.  In the Summer, which is when we left, it is very, very green.  Verdant.  Almost tropical.

As we drove, the mountains happened.

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Before and After…What?


THE BOLD (Change In Service to What?):

Before and after can be addicting.  How do we let our passion for the newly arranged, the freshly painted, the revised and the improved fuel meaningful change?  How do we make sure that we will want to live in our afters?

The Whisper (Movement, Change, and Direction):

I admit it.  Sometimes I succumb to those websites with the “next” buttons that feature where are they now or celebrity before and after photos.  I’m also susceptible to Read More


You Might Be a Perfectionist If…


…you think you aren’t one.

THE BOLD (Give it, and Yourself, a Rest):

For many of us, the very characteristic we secretly nurture is the very characteristic that keeps us from enjoying the order, control, progress, and prestige we crave.  Perfectionism is a seductive poison.

The Whisper (Perfectionism is Far from Perfect):

If you conducted a survey and asked the citizen on the street to describe a perfectionist, I suspect you would hear negative characteristics like demanding, rigid, cold and unreasonable.  However, you might also hear words of grudging admiration like precise, efficient and organized.

When asked to visualize a perfectionist, your survey participants mightRead More


5 Questions to Move From Busy to Beneficial


THE BOLD (From Treadmill to Tremendous):

Yesterday, we discussed the difference between being busy, churning on a treadmill of meaningless activity and being beneficial by making choices that matter.  So how do you know what matters?

The Whisper (A Different Way to Work):

The designer William Morris (think leafy Arts and Crafts wallpaper that hangs in the foyer in a Merchant Ivory film) famously presented his golden rule for creating harmony in our environment.   “Have nothing in your houses,” he asserted, “that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful.”  What if we Read More


The Emperor’s New Work: Are You Busy or Beneficial?


THE BOLD (Busy, Busy, Busy):

Your friend asks you, “How have you been?” and you immediately reply, “Busy.”  What your friend (usually) doesn’t ask is, “Busy doing what?” Perhaps your friend should ask you that.

The Whisper: (Everyone is Busy, So What Are We Pretending Not To See?):

“But,” said the little boy, unaware that he should gratify the Emperor, “He isn’t wearing any clothes.”

Are you busy?  It seems to be the anthem of the age.  Read More


No Free Lunch? Resources for Licensed Images


Imagine that you walk into a museum and see an image that you love.  It will look great over your sofa.  The colors match your living room and the theme is one that underscores the life you live in the space.  It is perfect.

Now imagine that you just take it.  Imagine pulling it off the wall, leaving the tag that indicated its artist and its current owner, snatching off the frame (that won’t go with the maple end table, after all) and walking out the door.

That would, you know, be a very bad idea.  That is theft.Read More


No One Has the Social Media Tech Tiger by the Tail


There are lots of us guru types out here–people with an edge or a perspective or some tips to offer.  Some are useful–as I work very hard to be.  Some are hollow or narrow or limited.  It is important to remember that no one, and I mean no one, has this Social Media Tech Tiger by the tail.  Look at the big names, the high pressure Start Up whiz kids, the pundits and pronouncers.  Stories abound about companies that swell and shrink, of valuations without value, of missteps and mistakes.

That is because Social Media is–stay with me here–social.

It rides the currents and eddies of the flow between people.  And people are only so predicable.  Which is a very good thing.  We can and probably do need to stay informed about the plans, innovations and strategies of the providers who seek to dam, shape and harness the flow of Social Media currents.  Social scientists can map our aggregate behavior and make predictions and draw conclusions about the likely behavior of groups.  Again, this is useful and interesting.  But it is not foolproof.  A Gangnam Style event was possible, maybe even probable.  But it wasn’t predictable.  If it was, Harlem Shake would have been a whole lot more satisfying distraction and a whole lot less creepy, manufactured intrusion.

Ultimately, the engagement is about the ride.  It is about interacting with people.  The apps are tools.  The sites are arenas but the value is in the connections between people.

It is the time to experiment–prudently, of course, and with as much information as you can comfortably gather.  Go talk to someone.  Encourage a stranger.  Share someone’s great story with your contacts.  Express a tactful but thought provoking opinion to someone with a track record of embracing conversation not hyperbole.  Don’t send any money to a deposed prince or give all your personal details to anyone who is listening.  Go make a friend, even for a moment or two.  And take the advice of us gurus with a grain of salt–we’re learning along with the rest of you.